Blog: Accepting Help

Oct. 31, 2018

Elaina again:

I am having surgery next week on both of my feet. I will be weight bearing, but in two boots for several weeks. I know I will have to do something incredibly hard… accept help. Why is it so hard for us to ask for help? Shoot, I have a hard time accepting help even when it’s offered. We all love to give help! Why can’t we take it?

My family jokes about me being the Queen of “suck it up”! I go to football games with full on migraines. I am diabetic and will be the last person in my family to say that I need a break or a snack, even if my blood sugar is dropping. Heck, once when my oldest was in middle school, I had minor surgery and still performed a mother daughter dance the next day while on pain pills. I expect this surgery to make me more humble. With both feet being hobbled, I will need all the help I can get.

I have been trying so hard to control my environment this week and plan for next week. I have lists of things I need to get done to prepare. I have cleared my schedule for two and a half weeks. I have my husband and daughters lined up to do what needs to be done. We all know how this works. We all know what happens to the best laid plans. The time will come when I will have to reach out to other people. When I return to work, I will need other people to step up and help me. We have Thanksgiving and Christmas season with shopping and baking and other activities. I will be partially an invalid through it all.

Someone wise once told me that we all love that feeling of giving. That if I am not willing to accept help, I am denying someone else that feeling. So, I will do my best to not only accept help, but actually ask for it when I need to. Feel free to call me out if I don’t ask for help! We all need to take care of each other. It’s not just children that need a village!

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