Sept. 12, 2018
Elaina here. I loved what Lisa said last week about choosing the people who make us a better version of ourselves. It got me thinking about the relationships we can’t control: family, coworkers, etc. Can we get fulfillment from relationships that may be challenging? I think the answer is yes. Sometimes, we can become a better version of ourselves by identifying what we don’t want to be.
I’ve really been thinking on this lately. I’ve decided that the key is to decide who we want to be. I read a book a few months ago, Dark Matter by Blake Crouch. The book explored the idea of multiple alternate realities. In the book, the theory is that every decision we make, every crossroads, splits off into another reality. In this theory, there are many versions of ourselves. The circumstances we choose direct who we become, but more than that, how we react to those circumstances define us. We all have good and bad things happen in life. Some we can control, others we can’t. How we react is what defines who we are.
If we ultimately hold every possible version of ourselves inside of us, our best and worst self, then in reality, we can choose who we want to be. That’s pretty powerful stuff! The last few years, I have been thinking about who I want to be and practicing being that person. I used to be very reactive. I had a hard time handling criticism. I tended to gossip. I decided that I didn’t want to be that person. I want to be so full of love, that it emanates from me. I want people to feel my happiness and for it to brighten their day.
It’s a great thing to choose the people close to you, so that they lift you up. I find myself also seeing value in my difficult relationships. It gives me a chance to practice being my best self. I encourage all of you to take some time to think about who you want to be. Practice being that person. Fake it till you make it!