From Lisa: We are not perfect. We are human.  All day, every day we make mistakes. We cannot walk on water. We cannot create miracles or right all wrongs. We are simple beings, put on this earth to walk through struggles, trials and obstacles, learning to rely on each other and spreading kindness along the way.  Sometimes life gives us too much to handle. Sometimes life gives us some pretty sour lemons.  And try as we might to make the best of it, work harder and get through the mess, we are sometimes crushed by the weight of our problems. We sometimes fail.

Or so it seems. Look at some of the biggest failures we have had in our lives.  Can we now look back and see how they may not have been complete failures? Perhaps when we failed, we taught someone else a great lesson. Perhaps someone learned from our pain and sorrow.  Or perhaps by failing at one endeavor, we saved pain on the other side.

When I walked through my divorce 10 years ago, there was a tremendous amount of guilt on behalf of myself and my husband.  We felt that we had failed God, our children, our friends, our families and ourselves.  There we were deliberately causing the death of our family.  But truth be told, things had gotten so bad that we were no longer providing the loving childhood our children deserved.  So we walked through this failure together, placing our children’s well-being at the forefront of our focus. We started giving them the peace and security, love and strength they should have had all along.  We created a new life for them to have that healthy childhood.  So even though we had failed at the marriage, we were able to provide something better for our children.  

Isn’t this how life goes?  For every ying there is a yang.  For every negative there is a positive.  Let’s start working to focus on what we are bringing to this world and stop declaring every mistake as a failure.  I will leave you with one of my favorite Michael Jordan quotes (which I think I have quoted before).

I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

— Michael Jordan

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