No one know what it’s like to be you. No one else has your perspective, your history, your triumphs and challenges. It’s important to remember this when seeking advice.
Even when friends and family want the best for us, their advice can come from their own perspective and how they see us. It may or not be accurate for us. Sometimes, people can offer us a different view of things. But we should always evaluate what people are telling us and decide for ourselves if it’s true or would work for us.
This applies to doctors, too. First of all, the doctors only knows what you tell them. Second of all, there is a reason they call it “practicing” medicine. Find the doctors that will treat you as an individual and listen to you. Make sure you tell the doctor if a treatment is not working for you.
Of course this being your own advocate, means that you need to be honest and real with yourself. No sugar coating or ignoring your faults if you’re trying to change. Also remember that in general, the people we love want the best for us. Be kind, but firm when we disagree with them.
On a side note, thank you for everyone that checked in about my headaches. I have an investigative doctor who listens to me. We changed some medicine, added hormone therapy and I’m happy to report that I haven’t had a headache in over a week and half now!